Dating in the old days was easy. You would go to a bar or a local dance, find a girl or guy you thought was appealing and stumble your way through the first few awkward sentences. If it worked, you ended up with a date for some time later. If it didn’t, you ended up trying again. No real magic. But, now that you have been through all of that and found the perfect mate, the one that you call your spouse, you find yourself wanting to date again, right? Today, life has definitely gotten easier in the ways of dating, but the key to you getting to date again requires a change in thought. Before (and maybe even now) you were out there looking for a date for YOU. But, since you are married now, the only way that dating is going to work is if you and your spouse are agreeable. How do you do that? Simple. Tell them you are finding a date for them! It is much easier to get your spouse to accept such an idea if there is something in it for them. The choice of finding a same sex or opposite sex partner is yours and should be made with you spouse. And, since this is a bit taboo, you can be confident that you won’t have to try to suggest such a seemingly unusual idea to a person face to face. Just visit one of the leading dating sites and post a profile. Then, try a few searches for swingers or bi-sexuals or whatever fits with the desires you have. There is truly something for everyone. From gay to alternative to pure lesbian, you won’t have any trouble finding some fits for your idea. Once you have found someone, take some time and get to know them online first. Then, try a phone call or a dinner in a public place. Just be sure that both parties are clear that dinner will end when the check comes and that is it. If the dinner goes well, try another dinner and see where things go. The key is that you and your partner and the new person you have invited in are comfortable and clear about each step the relationship takes. Above all, have a great time! If you are going to venture into these waters, do it for the pleasure and enjoyment. This is one thing that should most definitely NOT feel like work! | 
