For years and years I was single and had no time to find love and happiness. I learned about internet dating and decided to give it a try. When I first started I was an operations manager for one the biggest technology firms in all of Boston, I was working on finishing my grad degree, and I was trying to learn how to waltz for my parents’ 50th anniversary. I could not figure out why I wasn’t meeting anyone new. Finally it hit me. I had not made time for love.
I treated Internet dating like another work project. Before I knew it I was emailing and meeting new guys at least once or twice a week. I had the advantage of being the woman because it went unsaid that I should choose the time and location of all of my dates. And what do you know I always met my dates in a convenient and quick place, a coffee shop as my favorite place. It made matters simple. In the middle of my busy day at work I would pop in, chat for an hour (I had it down to a time schedule) and then move on to the rest of business for that day. It was merely another meeting I mentally checked off my ever-growing list of to-do’s.
Every once in a while I would have a guy get upset because I had to rain check him because of my busy schedule, but I told myself that I should only entertain men that understand that I am a busy woman. I mean this is the way the world turns these days, right?
Through my internet dating I came across someone that interested me. He looked distinguished and educated. He was very handsome. I went on to read his profile and although he had graduated from an Ivy League school and gone on to be one of the most well known doctor’s in my city, his profile still had a sense of humor about it that made me want to know more. We started to chat through email and then started phone conversations. I had such a good time with him virtually that I decided it was time I met this man. I am ashamed to say it took us 2 months to meet because I kept rescheduling and canceling. It was around Easter when I finally met him. We laughed and had the best time of our lives it seemed in that moment. Toward the end of the conversation he said something thing stopped me in my tracks. He said that he had to meet this woman that was too busy for everyone. He said he could not understand what in life could consume her so much that she was busier than everyone else and had to reschedule or meet under her terms only. He did not mean this in a degrading or negative way at all. He said it laughing. Little did he know, I was stomped. He had just called me a workaholic.
When I left that date I changed my life. I put work second to the important things in life. Within a month my job found someone else to run into the ground and discarded me. I slowed my life down and started to enjoy what it had to offer. I continued online dating and before I knew it, I was on another date. I saw the man that told me that I was workaholic and had the opportunity to tell him that he changed my life. When my date arrived I was ready to spend more than an hour getting to know him and the last thing on my mind was work. I now have a lifetime to get to know him. We are married with three beautiful children and will live happily ever after. Don’t let work consume you.
