We all know that safety is a very important thing to take into consideration when using the internet to find dates. Typically this is more so for women than it is for men. What would you think if you met someone online and the two of you had been chatting for a few months and there were still a lot of things that he was not disclosing? Would you just pass it off as a safety measure that he has learned to take or could he be involved with someone else.? Here are some dead giveaways of infidelity.

No Last Name

Married or involved men will be overly protective of themselves and whom they allow to know their true full names. It is a given that once someone has your full name they can do a background check, look them up in a phonebook or online.  If he is unwilling to give you his last name, particularly after you’ve entered into the phone phase of your communication, you should start to wonder what exactly is going on. You have every right to ask why he will not tell you his last name. 

Unfortunately, there are married men out there who use aliases, so it is all the more difficult for you to detect if he is married or not. Listen to yourself if you suspect dodgy behavior.  You can even jokingly ask to see his “driver’s license” picture. If he gets real defensive then he may have something to hide (besides an ugly driver’s license photo).

You have no idea what city he lives in

No one should give out any of their personal information on the first couple of dates. But once you two start to see more of each other, that question is definitely going to arise, especially if you have entered or are in the process of entering into an intimate relationship with him. Do not be fooled by the roommate story or how messy his place is. If he keeps putting you off about seeing where he lives, then chances are he is hiding something from you – like a wife!

No discussion about family

Of course once you have gotten pass the emailing phase and graduated to phone communication, you should be comfortable enough to discuss things such as family. Chances are if a man is married he will do just about anything to steer clear of the family conversation with you. Women tend to fall for the story about how his life was nothing before her and would be nothing without her. Do not let him leave you with blanks. You have every right to know where someone comes from. We are all a product of our environment. They may even try to change the subject entirely, and get you focused on something completely different. If you cannot tell that he is trying to hide something you may want to do some self reflecting.

You haven’t met anyone he knows

One of the number one indications that someone is really into you is that they want everyone to meet you. They want to show you off to the people who mean the most to them. If he’s married you are last thing he would bring home!