You’ve been talking on the phone and emailing for quite a while now. Now is time you meet in person. Don’t be afraid and get all nervous. You are not going to the doctor’s office to get a needle.
Your main concern about this should be your security, more so for women. So men, listen up. A lady has to feel safe and at ease when meeting for the first time. She may even rather make the date occur in the daytime, rather than at night. Depending on your schedule, this may be best. Don’t even think about taking her somewhere in the cut where its cozy and secluded. The first time you meet your online date should absolutely be in a public place.
Whatever you do don’t try to kiss her on the first date unless she moves in for it. Be a gentle chap. It may seem ok because you feel like you already know her from all of the talking that you’ve done, but remember you are a stranger.
The entire purpose of you advertising is to see if you can meet someone that could perhaps be good for you. The hope is once you have found someone that you like, that they would like you too. The assumption is based on some e-mails and phone conversations.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if after time has passed of emailing and maybe even talking on the phone, you meet them and you actually like them? The best way to not be disappointed you should prepare for the worse from the beginning. If things don’t really go the way you planned or wished then you are better prepared.
Your date should not be long (unless you both want it to be). It’s better if you plan for no more than an hour to decide whether or not this person is someone that you want to see again. If things are gong well and you have forgotten the time then that is awesome!
To steer clear of a long date (if you are not enjoying the date) you could make the first date as simple as grabbing a cup of coffee together. If your date is not what you expected and doesn't talk much you are doomed to sit and fake laughs at stupid jokes, don‘t be afraid to leave. If luck is on your side (both of you are enjoying your time together) than let the night go as long as you see fit. .
Like I mentioned earlier it’s nice to grab coffee together. How many people do you know go to coffee and it takes them 3 hours. Just think when you go to a restaurant it is such a long process. You have to put in the order for your drinks then the waiter comes for the starter order, then they go and come back for your actual dinner order and then… desert. I mean can you imagine that if it’s a date that isn’t going well for you. If the date goes well you can order something to eat from the coffee shop or grab something to eat somewhere else.
The reason you went on this date is to learn about the person. This should bring about a lot of conversing. It would make no sense if you met somewhere like a nightclub or go to the movies. Also do not choose a place that is your usual haunt. You will find yourself talking more with your acquaintances than to your date. If every second someone is stopping you to say high or to talk your date may feel left out or think that you are rude. After all, he/she has come to chat with you and not listen to you chatting with others.
Here comes a tip for women. Ladies, if by any chance you are not completely comfortable, tell a friend to come to the same place that you are going with your date and to bring their own date. This way you don’t just crowd your date with a friend, but your friend can see you from where he or she it.
