You have done all of this chatting and flirting virtually and now it is time for the two of you to meet face to face. Don’t be afraid and get all nervous. You are not going to the doctors’ office to get a needle.
Your biggest concern about this should be your safety, more so for women. So guys, listen up. A woman should feel safe and comfortable at the meeting. She might even prefer to fix a date in the daytime, rather than a t night. Of course this is all based on your schedule. Don’t even think about taking her somewhere in the cut where it’s cozy and secluded. The first date should absolutely be in a public place.
Do not try to kiss her on the face date unless she initiates it. Be a gentleman. It may seem right because you feel like you already know her from all of the talking that you’ve done, but remember you are a stranger.
The whole purpose of these placing ads is to see if you can meet someone that could perhaps be good for you. The hope is once you have found someone that you like, that they would like you too. The assumption is based on some e-mails and phone conversations.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if after weeks of emailing and maybe even talking on the phone, you meet them and they are awesome? Not to be disappointed prepare for the worse from the beginning. If things don’t really go the way you planned or wished then you are better prepared.
Your first date should not be long (unless you both want it to be). You won’t need anymore than an hour to decide whether or not this person is someone that you want to see again. If indeed you are having so much fun that you have forgotten the time then that is great!
To steer clear of a long date (if indeed your date turns out to be a total bore) it is best if you meet for coffee. If your date is a dud and doesn't talk much you are doomed to sit and fake laughs at stupid jokes. If you are more lucky (mutual liking is not considered here) you will have to act as if you are really interested in what someone has to say during the two trying (hurrah, only one) dinner hours.
Like I mentioned earlier its nice to grab coffee together. How many people do you know go to coffee and it takes them 3 hours. Just thing when you go to a restaurant you have to order drinks then the waiter comes for the appetizer order, then they go and come back for you order and then… desert.. I mean can you imagine that if it’s a date that isn’t going well for you. If the date goes well you can order something to eat from the coffee shop or grab something to eat somewhere else.
The whole purpose of you going on this date is to learn about the person. This should bring about a lot of conversing. The last place you should meet is somewhere like a nightclub or go to the movies. Also do not choose a place that is your usual haunt. You will find yourself talking more with your acquaintances than to your date. If every second someone is stopping you to say high or to talk your date may feel left out or think that you are rude. After all, he/she has come to chat with you and not listen to you chatting with others.
Here comes a tip for women. Ladies, if by any chance you are not completely comfortable, tell a friend to come to the same place that you are going with your date and to bring their own date. This way you don’t just bombard your date with a friend, but your friend can see you from where he or she it. If not just have a friend call and check in.
