As you leaf through other people’s profiles looking for ideas on how to set yours up or update one you already have, try to remember that the world is made up of lots of types.
So, as you sit there and go through the trash to find the treasure, remember to respect that fact that your trash is SOMEONE’S treasure.
Be gentle when you let someone down. Be kind when you are contacted by someone that doesn’t ring your bell.
SOME IDEAS ON HOW TO SAY, “No, thanks.”
- Say, “No thank you. Best of luck.”
- Consider giving them a polite and brief explanation of why.
“You are not what we are looking for at this time.”
“We do not play with singles.”
“My wife is into blondes.”
“Please read our profile; we are looking for some pretty specific types.”
- The “ignore and block” is better than being mean.
- Revise your profile if you find a pattern of dislikes among the types that are contacting you. (I always specify that I do not respond to people whose primary profile pic is their genitals. But, I recognize that some people prefer to see the merchandise straight out of the gate.)
- If you know someone that might be interested, consider telling them to check out the other person’s profile.
Just because this site offers a level on anonymity does not mean you have the right to disregard other people’s feelings.
“Blessed are the cracked, for they shall let in the light.”
-Groucho Marx
Excellent advice!