Insecurities have an adaptive value to them behaviorally; they are remnants of our innate desire to survive and maintain our resources. Simplified, they are the red flags that let us know that something isn’t right and that we should be watching for ways to keep what is ours. When insecurities turn on us, however, and make us feel bad about things that we should not feel bad about, then they need to be addressed and modified.
If you are in a monogamous relationship with a man who has a habit of cheating, then it make sense you should be insecure about the possibility of losing him. Heck, it is normal for those feelings to spill over into later relationships, even. Me, I have some insecurity about my husband having sex with other women when I am not there. I LOVE to watch. I LOVE to listen. However, the thought of it happening when I am not there bothers the hell out of me.
Here is the wild part: I hate that it bothers me; I want it to stop bothering me. My husband has my permission to sleep with other women. I encourage it. I believe it to be healthy. By my own choice, my fear of him finding satisfaction inside another woman has become an obsolete fear of which I no longer want any part of.
There are no support groups for this endeavor, and I am attacking it simultaneously with a renewed attempt to develop my inner Mistress. Oh my, the next couple of months have some very interesting stuff coming up. So, I have determined that I am going to overcome my fears of other women, and now I need to find a way to get another woman on my husband’s cock when I am not watching…to demystify it. So far the only woman he has been with without me there has been his best friend. I need to face this. Hm.
