I believe that we are genetically predisposed to having multiple sex partners. Frankly, we are animals, and this reflects in our base needs. Religion and traditional morality dictates that we fight our animalistic nature and stay monogamous. Rising divorce rates show that monogamy is often not the right answer. Of course this is my opinion, as the rise in divorce rates have many factors involved. I contend , however, that if partners allowed one another to explore themselves sexually when their needs and wishes arose, the divorce rates would go down. (Granted, this would require sexual safety be a top priority.)
These thoughts come to me as I face helping my friend through a tough situation. He and his wife separated after a very short marriage. She was seeking flirtation and self-esteem building by contacting other men on social networks. He found out. They separated. Now, they are discussing another chance.
I wonder what would happen if they explored alternative lifestyle arrangements wherein she could find other partners or even simply flirt for self-esteem boosts. They are both very young, and I would hate to see their sexuality cause the end of their relationship. Surely, many couples do not feel the way that I feel. But I really believe that if they desperately want it to work and she feels the need to sew her wild oats, they could benefit from an alternative lifestyle arrangement.
If you are stuck in a monogamous relationship and are unfulfilled sexually or emotionally, I challenge you to have the ultimate discussion with your spouse or partner. It might just save the relationship, for it might answer some questions that you’ve always had. Just talking about it isn’t a commitment; so give it a shot.
Anyone considering the end of a love-based relationship should recognize that they have very little to lose at that point. They should be willing to take creative routes, try things they’ve never tried before and take risks. So take the risk, and give your partner chance to say no. They may just surprise you.
I need hot sex
Don’t we all.
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