Category Archives: Adult Dating Casual Sex
Depression and Dating
One of the most difficult things to do when dating is to deal with a chemical depression (or even just dysthymia). You see, doing so can lead to a lot of different things you likely would never have predicted would … Continue reading
An Adventure: Finding and Accepting a True Dom
I have experienced a lot of peculiar things in my life – some fantastic, some horrid and everything in-between. I took a leap a couple of weeks ago that has proven to be one of the most peculiar experiences I … Continue reading
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Attend To Your Posture: The Not-So-Vanilla Personal Version
Earlier, I posted an article on maintaining good posture for dating in the Vanilla world. Now, I wish to attend to my confessions. For me, the back view of a person is essential to the level of attraction I will … Continue reading
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Attend To Your Posture: The Vanilla Version
For a large part of modern American history, and beyond, our upper society has valued the posture of its members. “Sit up straight!” was its battle cry at dinner tables throughout the Western World. Does our posture somehow signal our … Continue reading
Honesty is the Necessary Policy for Lifestylers
I have enough experience in a small variety of Lifestyle activities to know that secrets can spin out of control very quickly. I have seen it happen with friends time and time again. This is why I struggle with the … Continue reading
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My Valentine’s Day Error
Valentine’s Day is a holiday that I do not typically celebrate. I have relegated it to the list of “Hallmark holidays,” which I believe were created to spur sales. I have argued that we should love our partners actively every day and … Continue reading
Tagged As: cheap and easy Valentine's Day gifts, cupid, quick gifts, relationships and holidays, romance, Valentine's Day
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Speaking a Dirty Mind
My thoughts are so filthy and depraved that speaking them face-to-face with another person makes me blush and hide my face. Oh, but I love my thoughts. I revel in them with all their grimy, perverse beauty. I enjoy submersing my consciousness … Continue reading
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Speak Out During Sex
It is a skilled lover, indeed, that can bring you closer to orgasm simply by what they say and the sounds they make during the foreplay, lifestyle activities and sex. Commands, compliments, fantasies and raw truths push the edge of taboo for many … Continue reading
Tagged As: screaming orgasm, sexial intercourse, talking during sex, vocalizations intercourse
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Stigmatophilia
The word ‘stigma’ originated from a Greek word describing a tattoo mark or the prick of something sharp. The Romans called slave tattoos and brands “stigma.” In our society, a stigma is not a good thing. It typically means a mark … Continue reading
I Choose Me
An interesting, and somewhat self-destructive, concept has cropped up in my mind: I AM RUNNING OUT OF TIME! Throughout my life, I have always done what made other people happy and complete until I can’t do that for even one … Continue reading
Tagged As: mortality, nearing menopause, self-esteem, sex at 40
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