Category Archives: BDSM Lifestyle Alt dating
Attend To Your Posture: The Not-So-Vanilla Personal Version
Earlier, I posted an article on maintaining good posture for dating in the Vanilla world. Now, I wish to attend to my confessions. For me, the back view of a person is essential to the level of attraction I will … Continue reading
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Attend To Your Posture: The Vanilla Version
For a large part of modern American history, and beyond, our upper society has valued the posture of its members. “Sit up straight!” was its battle cry at dinner tables throughout the Western World. Does our posture somehow signal our … Continue reading
Honesty is the Necessary Policy for Lifestylers
I have enough experience in a small variety of Lifestyle activities to know that secrets can spin out of control very quickly. I have seen it happen with friends time and time again. This is why I struggle with the … Continue reading
Tagged As: agreement, cheating, dating, friends that fuck, full disclosure, gay, GLBT, lesbian, lifestyle rules, lifestyler, love, master, mistress, online dating, polyamory, relationship, relationship rules, romance, rules of engagement, swingers
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Speak Out During Sex
It is a skilled lover, indeed, that can bring you closer to orgasm simply by what they say and the sounds they make during the foreplay, lifestyle activities and sex. Commands, compliments, fantasies and raw truths push the edge of taboo for many … Continue reading
Tagged As: screaming orgasm, sexial intercourse, talking during sex, vocalizations intercourse
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Stigmatophilia
The word ‘stigma’ originated from a Greek word describing a tattoo mark or the prick of something sharp. The Romans called slave tattoos and brands “stigma.” In our society, a stigma is not a good thing. It typically means a mark … Continue reading
Hematolagnia: Blood-play as a fetish
Periodically, I explore fringe fetishes for the benefit of my BDSM readers. I have found that once a person begins exploring fetishes, they often explore ones which they never thought that they would be interested in. So, it seemed prudent … Continue reading
Where is the Horizon?
Just a personal rant for tonight: A few months ago, my partner and I were watching a TV show wherein a man rode a weather balloon into the upper atmosphere. He almost reached the point of no freefall return when … Continue reading
Tagged As: commitment phobia, friends with benefits, what is love
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Keeping the Lines of Communication Open
When there is something on your heart that you are afraid to tell your partner(s), then is it the most important time to do so. When I have something important to tell my primary partner that involves our lifestyle rules … Continue reading
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Too Many Balls Up in the Air
My father used to tell me that I could have either a lot of time or a lot of money, but RARELY would I have a lot of both. The truth could not be more plainly put than that. But, what … Continue reading
Tagged As: bisexual, casual sex, dating, dividing time between lovers, friends that fuck, lesbian, lifestyle, multiple partners, online dating, open relationships, polyamory, primary partner, relationship, scheduling social time, secondary partner, swinger
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On Being Submissive
At one point, I wrote regarding my personal experiment: a foray into the world of the Dominatrix. Truly, if I learned anything from the shallow and swift venture, I learned that I am almost completely submissive when it comes to … Continue reading
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