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The Mast and the Master

She had waited five years for this trip. They had scrimped and saved every spare penny they could find. Tommy had researched to find the best deep-sea sailing ship and had selected a refurbished Westsail 32. The owner built it as a kit in 1979, and it was obviously loved. Yet, he  grew too old to sail it by himself and rented it on occasion so that “she could stretch her sea legs.”

They planned their supplies and packed carefully so that everything would fit. As they were loading the boat, she saw a box marked, “Do not open. Surprise inside.” Curious. But, she obeyed, as she always did whenever he would give her a direction. Well, that is unless she WANTED the consequences for disobedience.

They were two days out to sea, and the box had not left her mind. WHAT IS IN THE BOX???

Three days out, and still no answer to her questions.

After dinner on the fourth night, he told her to go stand by the mast. She obeyed. He disappeared into the heart of the ship and returned with the box. “Turn around to face the mast, Angela.” She obeyed. She could hear the tape ripping from the box. Then she heard a sound she knew very well: handcuffs.

“Wrap your arms around the mast.” She obeyed, and he secured them at the wrists. He went behind her to the box and she could hear him removing things one-by-one, and he laid them in her peripheral. She knew better than to look directly, but she struggled to see what she could without being caught. Floggers. A crop. A switch. Her favorite vibrator.

He stood directly behind her and untied her bikini top, letting it drop onto the deck. He slid her bottoms down her legs and off her feet. After picking up the crop, he tapped the inside of her ankles to indicate that he wanted her to spread her legs some. She obeyed. He pressed hard against her, forcing her to lie up against the cold mast. He leaned close to her ear and whispered, “We won’t need the gag this time, because there is nobody near enough to hear you scream.”

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Raise the Roof

With the economic woes of the past few years many couples are trimming back the fat of their own “play-money”. They spend less on eating out, skipping the coffee shop in favor of home brewing, and postponing that special getaway weekend cabin trip. But is this the best way to improve upon your personal financial situation, or are you potentially shooting yourselves in the foot?

Look at it this way: If your love life suffers at home, your work motivation and productivity suffers. And when that suffers, stress causes physical problems that can further strain your love life and potentially cause you medical expenses (or at least auxiliary costs in vitamins and supplements).

I think that it’s time lovers consider raising their own debt ceiling—so to speak—and invest in their love-life.

Set aside some money once a week, or every other week, for that one special treat the two of you can share. Removing yourselves from the never-ending cycle of financial issues and bills that never seem to stop coming in will remind you why the two of you are together. You’re a team. Start considering this down-time a sort of home-business pep rally, where the two CEOs can reignite that spark of motivation to keep things going forward and upward.

You will spend a little bit of money that could be going into savings, but the return on that investment will ultimately be worth it. When your stress goes down, your motivation and productivity rises; and coming home to your spouse will feel so much more rewarding at the end of every day.

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The Eyes Have It!

Some guys get all the girls…even when they are not that good looking. Ever wonder why that is? Considering the fact that 95% of my friends are male, I decided to ask around to the ones that seem to have the best luck. Hands down, one comment was predominant: You have to master the art of eye contact.

This got me thinking; how many people really know how to make and keep appropriate eye contact? I started paying attention as I talked to people. It was plainly obvious that most of the people I work with and socialize with are not skilled at this. Some stare too long. Some look down too much. Some can’t hold eye contact when I look directly at their eyes.

Then, I moved onto the next logical curiosity: what are my eye contact habits? This was an eye-opening experiment (pun intended). I look down too much when I walk. Today, I forced myself to look up as I walked and to make eye contact with a smile as people walked by. I ended up with two unexpected conversations with strangers and three compliments on my hair.

This is my challenge to you: Assess your eye contact habits; research how to make good eye contact and practice. It would be very interesting for you to tell me how it goes: here or on my profile.

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What’s the Difference?

People (usually women, but occasionally men) sometimes marry or date for money…or better put: financial security (which is the same damned thing). In a traditional date, the girl gets treated to dinner by the guy, and the guy typically pays for it all. He does this in hopes of impressing the girl enough to get to first base, or maybe even all the way to home base.

The guy picking up a hooker or call girl is doing the same thing. He’s paying money out of his pocket for the company of a female. The only difference is that he is guaranteed to get laid, while the guy buying dinner has to jump through a bunch of other hoops even after he’s spent alot more on food and movie tickets. And there’s still no guarantee he’s going to get laid.

Then you have the marriages of convenience. Women marrying a guy for his financial status, so they don’t have to worry about getting a job to pay the bills. Sure there is alot of other things going on to make it all look legitimate, but the fact is she is no different than the hooker on the street. She is compromising herself in exchange for security. She is going the easy road to success. Giving her body to a man for the rest of her life just so she doesn’t have to get a real job and be independent.

Actually, the hooker on the street has more values and independence than the trophy wife. She doesn’t give her entire self to each trick. Just her sex and her time. She still ultimately has control of who she dates, where she lives, and what she wants to do with the rest of her life.

So, how is it that what the hooker does is deemed “wrong” and “criminal” in this and other countries, but the trophy wife is just accepted as the norm?

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Lovers Playlist

I think everyone with a pulse and functioning genitalia should have a special playlist of songs that are perfect for setting and keeping the mood for sex and foreplay.

I have my own list, which includes some of the more slow and moody stuff from bands like Massive Attack, Slowdive, Conjure One, Fever Ray, and Zero 7.

You want to select and set up songs that give you a nice slow beginning which leads up to a rhythmic beat, but you don’t want anything hyper or aggressive. After about 15 minutes, the beat should be about the same as you’d expect your most romantic and long-lived sexual thrusts to be. You should then have one song between each of those that slows it back down to the ethereal, allowing you both to have a breather. Then, bump that shit back up to the rhythmic sounds that get you back into the swing of things.

I have a special Pandora radio station I have fine tuned over the years to stick with this sort of music so I don’t have to keep loading the same old playlist. You should try this too. Your lover or spouse will thank you for it!

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Pumping Ron (Part 2)

See the first part of “Pumping Ron” HERE.

As we stood there talking about the mundane stuff, I was struck by how comfortable I felt around him. He was not a beef-head at all, and that surprised me given how often he is at the gym. It turns out that he started working out every day when he and his wife divorced six months prior. He chuckled and said that it was his way of filling up all the extra time he had. When I asked why he wasn’t dating, he said that he was only looking for friends right now. Then he threw in the comment, “But I do miss the sex.” He immediately apologized, but I honestly didn’t mind the not-so-veiled hint.

His comment brought to my attention the fact that I truly wanted to fuck this man. So, I took the bold route and gave him my cell number. I prefaced the digits with the phrase, “I am just looking for a friend, too. What happens between friends stays between friends.” I wasn’t even home yet when the first text came in: “What are you doing Friday night?” I thought really long and hard about my response, because I knew exactly where this was going. I decided to put the ball in his court. “What do you want me to be doing?” Door wide open, sir. He bit. “Dinner with me.”

Two days later was Friday, and he arrived exactly on time. He brought wine, and I had cooked dinner. When I opened the door, that feeling of absolute comfort struck me again. I will admit though, he made me tight in my groin. Oh, how I wanted his cock in me. We went through the motions of dinner and drinks, settled in to watch a movie and I was consumed by the need to feel him under me!

I don’t know what came over me, but I promptly hiked my skirt and straddled him. His body’s response was immediate; I could feel his cock growing against me as I kissed him with reckless abandon. He stood and I wrapped my legs around his tiny waist as he turned to put me on my back. He kissed and nibbled at my neck as he reached down and slid my panties off. Then he unbuttoned his pants, slid them down to pull out his cock, and he looked down at me with a grin. I reached over my head and felt around for the drawer pull. Success! He took the condom I had just pulled out of the  sofa-side table, put it on and immediately plunged inside me. I was sopping wet and unreasonably horney, so the lack of foreplay was of no concern to me.

He fucked me ruthlessly with one hand in the small of my back and the other on the couch for support. I could feel the pleasure building inside me with every thrust, each time making me claw at him a little more frantically. I felt his posture change and knew he was about to cum, so I fingered at my clit. Just as I convulsed into full orgasm, so did he. We collapsed on the couch, sweaty and still mostly clothed. “Nice to meet you, Ron.” We laughed.

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Squirt!

“So this squirting thing I see women doing in porn videos; it’s all fake right? I mean, they’re just shoving water up their pussies and pushing it back out for shock effect…right? Either that or they’re just peeing. Right?”

Ladies and gentlemen, I am here to declare the above statements to be WRONG.

My husband and I began to notice that most women—myself included—feel the need to run to the restroom after having a bout of really good sex. We both concluded at the time that perhaps the contractions from female orgasms stimulate the bladder, pushing out what normally would sit there for awhile until more urine builds up. While this might be true in some instances, I have found out recently what is really going on down there; and quite by accident.

Without telling me, my husband was reading up on how to make a girl squirt when she comes. I came into the office right after he had finished his research, and he attacked me. He had me on my knees on the floor with his index finger in my vagina, and was curling and releasing over and over again as if beckoning someone. This was hitting my g-spot big time, bringing me very quickly to an intense orgasm.

At the same time he was fingering my g-spot, he was licking my clitoris like a professional. I was completely under his control and loving it! My orgasm was so strong and deep, I thought I was going to explode out of my skin. As soon as I was done, he released me and began wiping his face, his hands, his neck, and his chest.

“I guess it works,” he said, smiling deviously.

Since then, anytime I want to squirt, all I have to do is get him to stimulate my g-spot and NOT HAVE HIS COCK IN ME when I finally orgasm. Turns out that I can squirt every time I come, but if I come while he is in me the fluid retreats back into my body and dumps into my bladder instead of spewing out onto the bed and my lover. I have been able to recreate this over and over again without fail and on demand.

Female squirting is NOT an urban myth!

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Get Your PJs and Your Teddy Bear

I’ve always wanted to throw a pajama lock-in party. This might come as a surprise to some of you who’ve read my previous posts. I’m something of a nudist, and most clothing actually irritates my skin if worn for too long. Every opportunity which presents itself as perfect for being naked, I’m already unbuckling my belt without warning.

But I don’t hang around the house nude all the time. I have children, and sometimes mixed company comes over to visit, or I have to answer the door, or the house is too cold.

Enter: The Softie-Pants!

They were given to me by my mother-in-law. They’re red plaid, 100% cotton, and tighten with a drawstring rather than elastic so it doesn’t irritate my waist. I wish I had three pairs of them, they’re so comfy!

Now I just need to send out about 30 invitations to other couples the two of us would like to see getting drunk in our house dressed only in pajamas. Pillow fights may ensue, as well as *ahem* other things; but that doesn’t mean it’s gonna be a sex party. I just want everyone to be as comfortable and laid back as me while hanging around my home for drunken merrymaking.

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Pumping Ron

I see him at the gym every time I go, but I never pay the men there much attention. They seem to love themselves way too much to have room for anyone else in their lives. He is beautiful, though. About 5’11′, he has finely developed muscles and a tiny waist. He has a nice balance of muscle to height, so he doesn’t have to do that he-man-muscle-monster waddle when he walks. He is quite graceful. It is disappointing that there is no ink in his skin, but his nose is pierced. Mmmmm.

So, I have seen him many times, but a week ago was much different. I don’t know how long I had been staring at him, because I was honestly in la-la land, mulling over some new developments in my life at work. When I ‘tuned in,’ he was staring back at me and his cock was obviously responding to his perception that I was watching him. He smiled, looked down, looked up and blushed. He got up and disappeared into the men’s locker room.

I didn’t see him again that day, but he was back at it the next day. Now that he had caught my attention in actuality, I was a little more stealthy about watching him. It was difficult though; he was attempting the same maneuver on me, so we caught each other’s eye many times. As I came out of the locker room after just showering, I saw him near the front door. Turns out, he was waiting on ME.

Introductions were made and we made small talk. He finally fessed up, “I have seen you here a lot, and finally got up the balls to come talk to you.” “I am glad you did, Ron,” I replied.

(Here is the fun part: the sexy stuff comes tomorrow evening! You didn’t think I was going to rush through such a hot story did you?!)

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Disclosure

Studies show that one in every four adults you pass every day has genital herpes. Studies also show that 90% of them don’t know they have it. Truth is, most people never show any identifiable symptoms to indicate they are infected with the virus. They go about their daily lives, kissing and fucking whomever they wish, never knowing they are potentially spreading the virus to everyone they touch intimately.

So what happens when you actually discover an outbreak of the infection?

What if the outbreak was nothing more than a cold sore on your lip? I mean, everyone has those! Well, at least one in every three people does. Cold sores are even more common than genital herpes.

Do you go around telling every person you kiss that you get cold sores in the winter? If you’re like most people, likely not. So if you find out that you have genital herpes, is it now required of you—either legally or ethically—to disclose your condition to every person you have intimate contact with?

If we were talking about HIV infection, my answer to you would be a resounding YES. When we’re discussing diseases that could significantly impair or kill you, you are damned right you owe disclosure to everyone you want to bed! To omit disclosure and infect someone is tantamount to premeditated murder, in my book.

But we’re talking about the equivalent of a cold sore on your genitals, not AIDS.

I am not going to stand on my soap box and declare that it’s okay to keep it to yourself. But I am going to say that every adult is responsible for their own sexual safety. If they are dumb enough to go around town without protection or asking the question “do you have any STDs?” of each partner they hook up with, well the dice can only be rolled so many times before you get snake-eyes. The real question you have to ask is one inquired of your conscience. Is the person you are about to have sex with worth disclosing to? And would they feel hurt and betrayed if they found out you knew and didn’t tell them?

Until genital herpes can be viewed as the common cold sore by the general public, most people will consider you a monster for not disclosing. Then again, why did that person not use protection when you got them into bed? Hmmmm?

I can go back and forth on this issue all day long…

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